Woman Punishes Man
In many loving F/m relationships punishment is roleplay. Often Femdom romances are a pairing of equal partners with different orientation. The Mistress needs to dominate and inflict man. The submissive male needs to serve. He may also need to be tormented.
Not every relationship is romantic. Variations and gradations are numberless.
Some embrace inequality. The Domme and slave adopt a TPE lifestyle. Even in this, practical decisions may need joint, shared choices.
As the M/s pairing becomes more authoritarian, punishment becomes actual. I am distinguishing disciplinary pain from sadomasochistic play.
Punishment is training. Fear of pain, enables a man to change habits. Conforming to another person’s will is often difficult. Living as a slave is a continual application of effort. There are so many habits to abandon.
For a Mistress to ‘get even’ sounds childish. Dommes are human women. They are not invested with superhuman emotional stability. A malesub’s disobedience, noncooperation may cause a pain very close to not feeling loved.
Revenge is cleansing. The pain is channeled into anger. She is purged of resentment.
His insufficient obedience and humility make the man guilty. Punishment, paying for his sins, clears out the poison of guilt. He can focus on service and not endless self-criticism.
Punishment in this context is healing.
In an ideal Femdom power exchange, punishment is only an excuse for colorful S&M scenes.
(As always, everything I write here is based on personal experience and the lives of Dommes and submissive guys that I have known.)