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Submissive Man’s View of His Mistress

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She is Always Above Him

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When he is on his hands and knees his Mistress seems to tower above him. Their bodies reflect their status in the power exchange relationship.

She is superior, he inferior. His inferiority is not necessarily an invidious attribute. It may just denote that he accept her decisions and will comply with her will.

In the heart of a submissive man, his Mistress always stands above him. He may be miles away working at his job. When he thinks of her, he inclines his heart, taking a moment to rejoice in his surrender to her authority.

She will have her own pleasurable vision of him on his knees. His kneeling may only be figurative but it matches his heart.

This is the main quality that binds and sustains an F/m power exchange romance.

Originally posted 2015-04-24 23:32:11.

Interracial Femdom

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Black Domme, White Slave Man

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Transgressive sad word, it has been so overworked that it is best left to enjoy peace and quiet. Interracial Femdom seems to demand the word.

Why prefer a Black Mistress? My erotic empathy is defeated. Aside from aesthetic preferences for skin color (can that ever be innocent?) why care if a Domme is Black, Hispanic, Semitic, or whatever?

Surely, many men fantasize that Beyoncé is their Mistress. That is true of perhaps every female celebrity. But seeking an African-American Mistress primarily for her race seems an unhappy desire.

It limits the population of possible Mistresses. A woman wants to be admired for her individual virtues, not the color of her skin or ethnic origin.

Not that man can necessarily fight such preferences. The root may be undiscoverable and date from something in childhood.

African-American ProDomme online often exploit this? The professional dominatrix satisfies many desires otherwise forever forbidden.

But what really squicks your average liberal humanistic white boy are the Black men who want to be dominated by Caucasian females for race play. Even though he is in no way involved, he may feel a weird shame.

Probably submissive persons who enjoy race play have no place for racialist attitudes in the rest of their lives.

Do you have a racial or ethnic preference? Does it dominate your fantasies?

Originally posted 2015-04-24 12:47:32.

Femdom Foot Sex

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Foot Sex, Tease & Denial?

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I used to wonder why foot sex seemed to be a part of Femdom. For woman to rub a man’s penis with her feet seems amiably erotic.

Then a dominant girlfriend told me how fond she was of foot sex. She felt a strong connection between her feet and her dominance. Given how fond submissive men are of kissing and attending to Mistress’ feet the connection suddenly seemed obvious.

Foot sex seems perfect for tease and denial games.

Originally posted 2015-04-23 06:41:38.

Spiritual Femdom

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Femdom Vocabulary

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Is Femdom spiritual? I would say no.

Sometime in the 20th century, promiscuous and careless use of the word for anything a person might find elevating has left it useless.

Precise fulfillment of suppressed erotic needs is exhilarating, profound and liberating. There is no need to drag in words best left to religious and supernatural beliefs.

The submissive person also feels reverence, an emotion many reserve only for religious faith. In submission, an atheist has someone to worship.

Masochists and sadists experiences are difficult to describe. We experience what most find contradicting: please in pain, humiliation, either giving or receiving hurt.

Originally posted 2015-04-21 06:55:34.

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Uncomprehended Love

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Love, Friendship and Pain

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Those of us who have successfully blended sadomasochism with storybook romance surely feel that we have the best of all possible kinky worlds. Being a reductionist person, not knowing the neurological events experienced by less romantic fetishist I am agnostic.

People seeking cruel, heartless women to subject them to endless torture are ignorant of how most kinky relationships are lived. At least what the intents of the participants are.

The vanilla majority who learns about Femdom and BDSM from television programs are equally unknowing.

Tying up and whipping someone you really love, can be a realization of glorious passion.

As being the one feeling those lashes, undergoing degradation.

Even in the absence of romance, congeniality and friendship can be present, if only after the time in the dungeon ends.

These experiences transcend the empathy of the vanilla majority and merely horny.

Originally posted 2015-04-20 11:52:10.

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Mistress’ Dungeon

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Male Dungeon Slave

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Every masochist has at least one dungeon in his heart.

If he inclines to sadomasochistic historical romance, it may even be under a castle. Many need more conventional premises. This reinforces faith in their own dreams. A capacious basement is a more believable prison.

It is dark. It may be dingy. Perhaps on the original visit only. Mistress has since the ordered the slave to clean the dungeon between torment sessions. What a revelation it is to scrub away bodily fluids. There may even be a bit of his own blood in the mix.

Even if – let us make this more personal – you or I languish in dark, dank silence, the dungeon is no more than a room if Mistress is absent. Since she is distant, you cannot know how much she enjoys thinking of your privation and isolation.

Has she left you in fetters, attached to a wall? Does a tight leather hood prevent sight, hearing and speech? Perhaps you are only muzzled. Your eyes are her windows. Through them, she sees the effect of your days, weeks, months locked in her dungeon.

Will she eventually permit your to become her household servant. Is it your fate to be the thing in the basement whose life is blankness punctuated by periods of pain at the hands of your Mistress Owner?

Originally posted 2015-04-20 05:44:29.

Femdomarch Explains

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Why Don’t I Just Shut Up

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I may seem to post too many caveats about crazy Femdom fantasies.

Dark, extreme fantasies have long been part of my own erotic imaginative life. Since I am a pansexual polyfetishist switch (bisexual switch if you must) my sadomasochistic dreams encompass all roles, biological gender and gender performance.

After beginning a long-term F/m romance, the weirder fantasies seemed less thrilling. Even the mildest real life BDSM was more fun than anything that I could imagine.

Probably a typical response.

I am single again. Images over-the-top bondage and sadomasochism appear in my mind when I go to bed. I cherish them. They help me write vignettes.

In years of Femdom blogging, I have heard from very many men who only want what they cannot find. Some cruelties are available for a fee from a local ProDomme. Others are literally self-destructive. My (lower case) libertarian bias makes me feel it is okay if you destroy yourself. However, unless you find a crazy fuck, no one will do anything of those things to you. Why risk jail?

I like to think that some men who are seeking real life Femdom will gain enough balance to approach dominant women with realistic goals. Not that I think anything I post on a blog will have any effect.

It is just my compulsion.

Originally posted 2015-04-19 20:00:50.

Dreams of Being Whipped and …

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Handcuffed, Blindfolded, Whipped

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To be made helpless and whipped. The most basic fantasy a male masochist has when he begins to think of female domination and sadism.

Gagged, blindfolded, surely suspended, a stringent lash cuts into his flesh. There need be no attainment of justice. He has become the plaything of a cruel woman. She hurts him only for pleasure.

Later his imaginative repertoire expands. CBT, his genitals turned against him. This may seem even more thrilling than whipping. Nipple torture, how much this can hurt he will not guess until he experiences it.

Eventually masochistic experiences that torment the psyche instead of the body emerge. Feminization, he becomes a Mistress’ sissy bitch. Public humiliation, how his imaginary self blushes when he pictures mass mockery and CFNM. Cuckoldry, is there a practice that cuts more deeply into his heart?

When he discovers orgasm denial, it will become one of his most wished for forms of discipline. Even if he is unable to have Femdom relationships where he lives, he may discover an online chastity keyholder. Skype will become almost an additional sex organ.

Originally posted 2015-04-18 20:06:05.

Please, Mistress, Run My Life

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Reciprocal Balancing Act

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The submissive man, male slave wants to thrust so much responsibility on his Mistress.

Confessing incompetence, he wishes for her to regulate his life. He will make sure he eats right. Under her guidance, he will go to bed early enough to truly rest.

Most of all she will demand service. That is how submission repays supervision. Less hypocritically, it is what we want. The submissive male rewards the Domme for rendering him servile by accepting her will even when it is not sexy and fun.

Originally posted 2015-04-18 05:46:58.

Broken by His Mistress

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She Breaks the Bodies, Hearts and Minds of Men

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What happy nightmares of being broken by women masochistic men enjoy.

Her whips and canes lacerate the man’s flesh. He begs for mercy that never comes (this would ruin his dream!). Perhaps she drips sulfuric acid on his penis.

(I remember a remarkably nasty story where a woman used a blowtorch.)

His fantasy Mistress subjugates more than his body to suffering. Cruelties to his exterior are valued only to the degree that they reach within him.

Perhaps she has ruined his heart by blackmail or betrayal. Mercilessly she seduced him into a foolish agreement. Secretly she scorns him. She despises him for being male. Or seeks revenge for a forgotten misdeed.

His bruised and battered mind can scarcely maintain a single coherent thought. Hopelessness paralyzes his brain.

Who knew that a woman’s tongue could be so evil? With words alone, she makes him feel ashamed for being alive. He surrenders to her diagnosis. He is scum. His existence insults the universe.

Eventually all he knows is hurt. His consciousness is a blur of pain and self-loathing.

His will to live has vanished. Life is loathsome. Vainly he hopes she will finally put him out of his misery.

Execution is not the pathetic, mentally mangled creature’s fate. Confined to a tiny, cramped cage, his heart, spirit and mind locked in dim dread. She will return. Myriad degradations and mutilations are yet to come.

He has been broken. Being broken is an infinite loop that will repeat itself for years to come.

Originally posted 2015-04-17 23:29:16.

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