Sexual denial will make a man more ardent for sex. That is indisputable.

That enforced chastity makes a man a better lover seems less certain. A man’s lovemaking will improve if it becomes a condition for release.

Male chastity seems most often quantified by frequency of sex. Quality seems a better determinant. When released the man must be more mindful of the woman’s pleasure. This is not just a matter of lasting longer.

The man must be attentive to her sounds and small bodily responses during lovemaking. He must be a more intelligent, thoughtful lover. The effect of chastity should increase her enjoyment of each minute as well as give her more minutes of loving attention from the man.

An insightful and thoughtful man will enjoy more frequent release. The better able he is to make her happy the more she will want that happiness.

Originally posted 2015-05-04 20:16:48.

A member of the Chastity Academy offers this tip:

You may not want to waste your time with males who have no submissive potential.

When a young man asks for a date, tell him you only go out with men when they are wearing chastity devices. Most men will reject this condition. A male agrees may be worth cultivating as a submissive.

You cannot expect a male who has just met you to buy a chastity device. One option is to keep one of the lesser device on hand that fits most men. But that he actually be in chastity on that first date is not important. His willingness to comply with the demand is all that is really matters at the first step.

If you continue to date, he will buy the chastity device you specify.

Originally posted 2015-05-03 23:51:37.

Naamaire

Enforced chastity is unique in that so many men are wanking to images of being forbidden to wank at all.

Luckily, for many guys orgasm denial can be practiced with a long distance keyholder. You cannot be spanked at a distance (yet). But you can be teased and aroused by a woman in another state or nation.

With a bit of cleverness it is possible for her to know whether you remain locked up or fake it.

When I first learned of long distance chastity relationships at first I just thought it odd. But in reading forums I found that the faraway Mistresses were disappointed and hurt when their distant submissive guy cheated.

I have never given my long distance BDSM relationship a try. I envy those of you with the imaginative power to achieve pleasure in this fashion.

Originally posted 2015-05-03 11:15:16.

If you make a revolution, make it for fun,
don’t make it in ghastly seriousness,
don’t do it in deadly earnest,
do it for fun.

– D.H. Lawrence

Enforced but nonetheless consensual male chastity often seems the dominant fantasy and frequent reality in Femdom.

Limiting male orgasms is not an ethical issue. Any man who needs to remain chaste to insure that he treats his spouse, partner, lover properly probably needs counseling. Or he is using misbehavior to insure that he is kept in chastity. That would really be topping from the bottom in an exceptionally passive aggressive way.

Voluntary chastity proves genuine submission if it is a Domme’s requirement. Giving up orgasms, or sharply limiting them, is a good test of sincerity.

Keeping a guy from masturbating so that when he has sex with his beloved his ardor has not been wasted on Kleenex makes sense. Sure, the guy should have better impulse control. But ease and weakness can make fighting the urge to wank very difficult.

Even though chastity entails going without pleasure its goal should be pleasure. A pleasure superior to casual wanking.

Chastity – do it for fun!

Originally posted 2015-04-25 08:49:31.