In fantasies, obedience is effortless. In real F/m relationships, learning to obey takes time.
It is not that you do not want to submit. Real submission can be hard.
Subordinating your will involves continual self-overcoming. A thousand habits must be broken and rebuilt.
Habitual reactions need retraining. Resistance is not futile but it does interfere with the relationship.
In failing this way a man disappoints himself. He may become burden with regret.
I think this can often be the biggest surprise at the beginning of a woman-ruled relationship. Some men adapt more easily. Some are at war with themselves.
Some guys cannot actually be slaves. They are submissive, but only partially. There is not crime in this. Women have different desires and expectations. If you are an honest man of good will, there is a chance you will find a Domme comfortable with who you are.
Some are natural slaves. They overcome unanticipated reluctance and happily and sanely become completely, unthinkingly obedient.
There is no one true way. Many things worth having take lots of effort.
Originally posted 2015-04-15 19:54:02.